Take your child to funerals is not a biblical command but an encouragement based on wisdom. Here are three reasons to take your child to funerals.
We should take our children to funerals because funerals are more fruitful than birthday parties. Ecclesiastes 7:2 states plainly, ” It is better to go to the house of mourning than to go to the house of feasting, for this is the end of all mankind, and the living will lay it to heart.” It is natural and understandable to want to protect your child from the pain of death. It is wicked to rub their noses in the death of a grandparent, parent, or even their own death. Instead, what we want to do is help our children think about death. In the house of mourning, at a funeral, we gain a perspective on life that pin the tail on the donkey can never give. Grandparents, parents, friends, and siblings will die. Your child will die. Help your child be prepared for it by going to funerals and talking about death and resurrection.
We should take our children to Christian funerals because at these funerals there will be a great deal said about the gospel and the resurrection of the dead. We do not want our children to experience death and then grieve as those who have no hope. It is our calling to inform, teach, and talk to our children about death and resurrection (1 Thessalonians 4:13-18). There is nothing better than the funeral of a believer to help us think and talk about hope, while grieving. Additionally, the funeral of a known church member is a safe place to process death. Your child will see grief and have a sense of loss but not with the force of the death of a beloved grandparent or parent. Prepare your child to walk with the Good Shepherd through the valley of the shadow of death by walking there when the shadow is small. The day is coming when the shadow of death will feel like a thick darkness. Prepare them for that day. Go to funerals and talk.
Lastly, we should take our children to funerals because genuine love for our brothers and sisters causes us to rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep (Romans 12:15). It is good for our children to see us celebrate other’s wins. Go to that party and pin the tail on the donkey! But it is also good for our children to see us grieve other’s loses. Do not grieve as those who have no hope. Do not bring attention to your tears. Love your brothers and sisters. Share their grief. Hug their necks. Show your child that part of what it means to be the church is you are never alone.
Take your children to funerals.