Text: Deuteronomy 6 8/3/08 a.m.
Thesis: Parents are called to love God and raise up godly children.
Intro: This morning we’re building on last’s week’s sermon on marriage. Today we’re going to learn about the importance of the family.
What I want to do is give some biblical guidance to those who yearn for the restoration of the family.
This is for moms and dads, grandmothers and grandfathers, uncles and aunts, empty nesters, and those who never had children.
We the church must stand together and strengthen the family.
Read Deuteronomy 6
I) This morning make multi-generational faithfulness your goal and the goal of your family
a) Multi-generational faithfulness is the goal of God’s people
i) In Deuteronomy 6:1-3 Moses is telling the people why they need to hear the commandments of God.
ii) One reason, from verse one, is so that they would do what God commands.
iii) You cannot do what is commanded if you do not know what is commanded. Since God expects his people to do what is commanded we need to constantly hear and be reminded of God’s expectations.
iv) God expects us to hear and obey.
v) Another reason Moses is sharing God’s commandments, verse 2, is so that there would be multi-generational faithfulness.
vi) “that you may fear the Lord your God, you and your son and your son’s son, by keeping all his statutes and his commandments, which I command you, all the days of your life.”
vii) Deuteronomy 6:20-25 give a commentary on what it means to teach your son and your son’s sons to fear and obey God.
viii) Teach them about the power of God. Teach them about the signs and wonders of God. Teach them both the great and the grievous.
ix) King James says the great and the sore. New King James says the great and the severe. New American Standard says the great and distressing. NIV says the great and the terrible.
x) Do not hold back teaching your children about the love of God and do not hold back teaching your children about the wrath or anger of God.
xi) The key is to teach both and in equal quantities. Don’t overemphasize love to the exclusion of wrath and don’t overemphasize wrath to the exclusion of love.
xii) Teach them that in the same act of God the Egyptians were punished but the Hebrews were blessed.
xiii) Teach them that the work of God that brought death to the Egyptian people brought life to the Hebrew people.
xiv) Teach them that God commands us to fear him for our good, to preserve us, and to provide righteousness for us if we hold fast to him.
xv) There is so much to teach. We’ll get into that more in a moment. What I want you to catch is who you are supposed to teach.
xvi) Teach your son and your son’s son.
xvii) That means no one in the church is ever done with children’s ministry. Your role may change but the person who refuses to teach the next generation is the person who is living in disobedience to God.
xviii) And this person who refuses to hear God’s command to invest in the next generation is a person who is actively tempting God to punish.
xix) So what are we after at Mambrino Baptist Church? We are after multi-generational faithfulness.
xx) Why are we after multi-generational faithfulness? Because God commands it for our good.
xxi) When you look at your children and when you look at the children in this church do not see just them.
xxii) See their children and their children’s children and make it your heart’s desire that they all walk with God.
xxiii) Now I want us to look at
II) How to make multi-generational faithfulness our goal
a) To be faithful you must pay attention to God
i) Deuteronomy 6:4 is called “the Shema”. Shema is a transliteration of the Hebrew verb “to hear”.
ii) It means to pay attention, “to listen closely for the purpose of obedience” (McIntosh, 85).
iii) God’s people are about to run head-first into a culture hostile to their own.
iv) The Canaanites would try to convince the Hebrew people that the Canaanite way of doing things was better than God’s way.
v) The people had to listen to God. They had to listen carefully and listen with the goal of obeying.
vi) Multi-generational faithfulness will not come by listening to God Sunday morning, Sunday night, and Wednesday night.
vii) Multi-generational faithfulness will come by listening to God every day. And how does God speak to us?
viii) God speaks to us through the bible. Are you paying attention to God? Do you hear him speak daily to you, your son, and your son’s son?
ix) Do you and your family read the newspaper, check your emails, and watch Regis and Kelley and Sports Center or do you and your family hear God speak?
x) To be a faithful people we must be a hearing people; a Shema people.
b) To be faithful you must know God
i) Verse 4, “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.”
ii) This God, the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, the God who has made himself perfectly known in the God-man Jesus Christ is the only God.
iii) He alone is God. Money is not god. Comfort or ease is not god. The God who is three persons Father, Son, and Spirit is the only God.
iv) And God is God in perfect unity. God is unique, there is no other, and God in himself lacks nothing.
v) This is not a theological axiom to be tucked away in our nifty little bag of things that are true but not useful.
vi) The oneness, the unique nature of God, and God’s sole claim to deity is meant to control our hearts’ affections and our minds’ thoughts.
vii) This God who has made himself known in Christ is the only being worthy of all honor, glory, and power.
viii) He only has preeminence over all things. Do you know this God? I’m not interested in if you have your facts straight.
ix) I want to know if your facts are so straight that it has begun to set your heart straight.
x) To be faithful you need to pay attention to God, know God, and
c) To be faithful you must love God
i) Verse 5, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might.”
ii) In case you think this sermon is an attempt to bring us back under Old Testament law let me remind you that Jesus said the greatest commandment is “to love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength” (Matt 22:30, Mark 12:30, Luke 10:27).
iii) How do we obey the command to love?
iv) Think about this, God did everything for the Hebrew people. God brought them out of Egypt and God promised to do everything for the Hebrews when they entered the Promised Land.
v) God promised to do this because He loved them. In return they were to love Him.
vi) All of our love is a response to God’s love. We love Him because He first loved us (1 John 4:19).
vii) This string of words heart, soul, mind, and strength is meant to encompass all that you are.
viii) Love for God is not just emotional. Love for God is not just a matter of your desires. Love for God is not just intellectual. Love for God is not just a decision of the will.
ix) Love for God is a matter of the heart’s emotions, the soul’s desires, the mind’s intellect, and the potency of the will.
x) Do we love God to earn his love? Do we love God to earn his blessing or reward? Never
xi) We love God will all our heart, soul, mind, and strength because God first loved us.
xii) The bible is full of the truth of God’s love for us. John 3:16, “for God so loved the world.”
xiii) Romans 5:8, “but God demonstrated his own love for us”
xiv) 1 John 4:10, “in this is love, not that that we loved God but that he loved us
xv) Ephesians 2:4; 2 Thessalonians 2:16; 1 John 3:1; 4:9
xvi) All of these passages emphasize the great love of God for us and all these passages emphasize God’s love in the context of God sending His Son to die for us to redeem us.
xvii) God is worthy of all love because of who He is in and of himself. He is God, there is none like him, he alone is preeminent over all things.
xviii) And God is worthy of all love because of what he has done for us by loving us, forgiving us, making us righteous, and reconciling us to Himself through Jesus.
xix) Our love for God is always a response to God’s majesty and love for us.
d) And our obedience is a product of heart change
i) Deuteronomy 6:6 says, “And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart.”
ii) God’s commandments were never meant to be left on stone tablets. God’s commandments were meant to be written on our hearts.
iii) And God writing his commandments on the heart happens in the new covenant.
iv) Hebrews 8:10, “For this is the covenant that I will make with the house of Israel after those days, declares the Lord: I will put my laws into their minds, and write them on their hearts, and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.”
v) Obedience is not a matter of the will. Obedience is a matter of the heart which guides and oftentimes overpowers the will.
vi) It is out of love for God and his Truth that we parent our children, love our wives, and submit to our husbands.
vii) Jesus said, “if you love me you will keep my commandments.” (John 14:15)
viii) So obedience is an expression of love. Submission is an expression of love. Dying for your wife is an expression of love. Parenting is an expression of love.
ix) Love the Lord your God and love your neighbor as yourself.
x) You might be thinking to yourself right now, “I thought this was going to be a sermon on parenting.”
xi) I thought I was going to get a list of helpful tips to get my child to stop back talking, clean her room, make the grade, not get pregnant, and get a good job.
xii) But that’s the world’s pattern. God’s pattern is that mom and dad first live as a flesh and blood illustration of the gospel.
xiii) Dad’s like Christ. Mom’s like the church. So your kids need to look at you and see two people who love God and out of love for God obey God.
xiv) Dad’s your kids need to see you show your wife grace like Christ showed grace to the church.
xv) Mom’s your kids need to see you lovingly submit to your husband like the church submits to Jesus.
xvi) To do this you’ve got to be centered on Christ and you’ve got to be full of grace.
xvii) Salvation is a matter of grace through faith.
xviii) Marriage is a matter of grace through faith.
xix) Parenting is a matter of grace through faith.
xx) Men, if you don’t understand God you will cause great grief in your marriage relationship.
xxi) Fathers, if you don’t understand God you will cause great grief in your child’s life.
xxii) Your children will begin to form a mental picture of what God is like by watching you long before they learn how to read the bible. Show God to them. Show them grace.
xxiii) Multigenerational faithfulness is a product of grace.
xxiv) Read Deuteronomy 6:7-9
III) When multi-generational faithfulness is your goal you will teach the next generation
a) Who is the “them” that we must teach diligently?
i) Verse 2, we must teach our sons and our son’s son.
ii) You’re not done when your children leave home. They still need to be taught. I still need my father to teach me. I still need godly men in the church to teach me.
iii) And this intensifies when the son has kids. Believe me the need to be taught by godly fathers grows when the son begins to have children of his own.
iv) From the oldest member to the youngest child the question that needs to always be on our minds is this:
v) What else can we do to train up the next generation to follow Christ?
vi) We want kids to be seen and not heard. God expects us to teach kids and put them right in the thick of things.
vii) If you want to live and finish life with faithfulness then invest yourself in others who are not your age.
b) What does it mean to teach them diligently?
i) This word ‘word’ teach is often used in reference to arrows or knives and in that context it means to sharpen.
ii) And you sharpen a weapon so it can effectively do it’s job. You want and arrow to pierce and tear. You want a knife to cut swiftly and easily.
Psalm 127:3-5 says, “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb are a reward. 4Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. 5Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them!
iii) And God expects every warrior father to sharpen his children by constant training; diligent teaching.
iv) The faithful husband does more than physically provide for his wife and kids.
v) The husband must disciple his wife and the father must disciple his children.
vi) And it’s not enough to work hard to pay someone else to train up your children.
vii) God requires that moms and dads, but particularly dads, instruct their children daily and diligently.
viii) Dad’s it is your calling to regularly lead your family in times of worship. Dad’s it’s your calling to daily bring Scripture to bear on the lives of your children.
ix) No child is an accident and no one is a Dad by accident. God has called us to a spiritual task and in Christ we will be given the grace and strength to complete the calling.
x) We’ll talk more in the weeks ahead about what this practically looks like. What I want you to get today is the foundation in your life on which build a strategy to teach your children.
xi) Here’s what must happen. We as parents must cultivate a heart of love and gratitude to God in ourselves and it will spill over into your conversation.
xii) And we must be specific concerning what we want our children to know and we must be intentional to teach them. Here’s where it starts.
xiii) To teach them diligently is to use every opportunity to pass on your love for Christ to your children.
xiv) Every conversation is an opportunity to move them closer to God or closer to the world.
xv) Husbands and Dads, you’ve got to be reading Scripture with your wife and family.
xvi) Don’t try to be pious with a seminary lecture. Start small. Read the daily bible reading, sing a hymn or chorus, and pray. Start there and see where God leads your conversations. Teach them diligently by talking to your children daily about God from His Word.
IV) I believe our greatest battle will be the battle to remember God
a) After God promises his people all the good things in Deuteronomy 6:10 & 11 he says this
i) Then take care lest you forget the Lord, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of slavery
ii) When the battles stop and the bank account grows don’t forget God. When you’re jobless, under persecution for the faith, physically sick, or in need it is second nature to seek God and lead others to do the same.
iii) But when you are at ease physically and financially the temptation is great to become at ease spiritually.
iv) When husbands and dads abandon their responsibilities and enter seasons of ease it is second nature and devastating to forget God.
v) We must fight like warrior fathers. Get into the battle for souls. Start caring for your wife, your kids, your grandkids, your church family, and your neighbors.
vi) I guarantee it will test your metal and drive you to the throne of grace.
vii) Get in the game. Go to spiritual war for the glory of Christ and the good of others.
viii) Where does that battle begin? In your own heart and in your own home.
ix) Lord willing in the weeks ahead we’ll work out some of the practical steps we take to teach our children and not forget God.
V) But this morning I want to close with this reminder
a) Mom and Dad there is perfect grace in Jesus Christ to cover every sin you committed in relation to your children.
b) Mom and Dad there is perfect strength in Jesus Christ to hold you up as you follow God and teach your children.
c) Parents, God’s expectations are very high and His grace is more than sufficient for you.
d) God loves you and it was God’s plan for you to be a parent.
e) God knew what he was doing when he brought that child into your life. You’re here this morning as a testimony to God’s grace.
f) Your son will be here tomorrow as a testimony to God’s grace. You’re son’s son will be here further still as a testimony to God’s grace.
g) Now it’s time to go and do what God has called us to do. Respond to God’s love and teach them diligently.